Does God Feel Some Kind Of Way As We Look For Love In Humans

I've always wondered how does God feel as we go on about our business of looking for spouses and maybe dwelling on that pursuit so heavily sometimes. Meanwhile he's right there ready to give his love in ways that we can't fathom. Sometimes I question whether we are saying his love is not good enough for us as we pursue spouses.

Then sometimes that can make you feel guilty that why are you looking for love from a human being when the perfect best love is already there waiting for you, will always be there for you and is always there to love you regardless of what you ever do. So sometimes I feel like are we saying that God's love is not enough, when we are pursuing e.g, a spouse? And how does God feel about that? And how does he feel when we are not content with our single life, sometimes even to the point of deep emotions? How does God feel when we feel that way?

What I know is the love of a human being can never fill us. Whereas the love of God will fill you in ways that you can't imagine. But yet God still gives room for us to seek the love of a friend, parent, sibling, extended family, colleagues and all the different people who can possibly love you. Is God offended by us seeking love from other people?

I don't think he feels offended because he understands us more than we understand ourselves. He also looks at the heart and knows our motives. The Excellent Book says God is love. So as we are looking for love in all these different people, we're actually looking for him, because looking for love is looking for God, because God is Love. So he doesn't feel some kind of way. He also knows that we're not seeing it in that way because we don't have the capacity as human beings to see things the way God sees. But he sees and he understands us very well. He doesn't have a problem with us seeking love because in seeking love we are really seeking God so that's not a bad thing.

If anything he loves that we are seeking love because it means our mission of finding a friend, a spouse is not just that, even though to our superficial eyes it may be that. On a deeper note we're actually looking for God but we don't know it. So really all this time, all our lives when we've been looking for friendship looking for our tribe, looking for a spouse, we've been looking for God and that can never be a bad thing in his eyes. He is not offended, he does not feel some kind of way, so long as we don't make that pursuit an idol (the centre of our life), that he will have a problem with.

There's a book I read, I forget the name of the author but with my photographic self, I can see the book, I think it has a blue cover, but I could be wrong. It said that all of us have love tanks and each of those love tanks needs to be filled up. When they are not filled, we don't feel fulfilled in life. We may then pursue something to fix this, it won't work, because the root cause has not been dealt with. You can have a high flying business, but if one of your love tanks is not filled, a £10 billion deal won't fill it. Love needs to fill it.

The first love tank is to be filled by God then the next is by parents/spouse or vice versa, siblings, extended family, friends, community etc. When a person gets married it would be erroneous and unrealistic to think that your spouse is the only person who can love you because that, they cannot. Only God can do that. And he gives you all these people because each of them fills a specific love tank.

I believe the reason he does that is because God's love is vast. And because its vast it can come through so many avenues/channels like your parents, friends spouse, children, community, colleagues and yet still with all that love, it still doesn't cover the love of God because it is vast. So the people in your life, spouse, friends etc is just God's way of spreading his love to you. He decides to spread it through all these different people.

So God has no problem in you seeking all these people to be in your life and for you to experience their love because even if you don't know it, you're actually looking for God. And he designed for you to have it that way. That you should have your parents, siblings, extended family, spouse, community, neighbours, colleagues all the different people around you through whom he wants you to experience love. Just because it comes from a human being does not mean it's nothing, because love is God and so any love that you're experiencing is God.

So don't feel guilty but feel free when looking for love whether it's a spouse, a friend. You are not saying God is not enough. You're looking for love, you are looking for God and that's a good thing. What will not make it a good thing is if you go about it in a way that is not of love. The Excellent Book describes love as patient, kind, not rude, not boastful, doesn't keep a record of wrongs, basically love is selfless.

So if you're going about your pursuit of love in a selfless way there's nothing wrong with that. If you are receiving love that is selfless, that is of God. Anything else is not of God. Example Domestic Violence, manipulation, control is not love and is not of God. There's nothing wrong with looking for love as the Excellent Book describes love, because you're ultimately looking for God because God is love.

In fact what we might be saying is we need so much of God. With our limited wisdom and understanding we just don't know that this is what we're doing. So if we do it this way, then why would God have a problem with that. Why would God have a problem with you seeking a spouse, why would God have a problem with you seeking a tribe of friends, why would God have a problem with you seeking colleagues who are kind, patient and caring.

So as you go on the journey of finding or being found as a spouse or seeking your friends/tribe, don't feel guilty that you're making it out that God is not enough. You're looking for God, because God is love. And when you do it in a love-way, i.e, selfless way, God is very much OK and doesn't feel some kind of way that you are seeking it, because he created you in that way. You're a creature of Love, created by Love, created for Love, created to Love. And when the love tank can't be filled because the person is no longer here, God is the expert of filling that love tank for you. Keep running back/crying out to him to fill it. Is anything too hard for the Lord?

It's also important to remember God created the idea of a spouse, so why should you feel guilty for wanting something God himself created. Doesn't the Excellent Book say it was God who said " It is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helper fit for him". If it is our desire to have a spouse, God set it up that way. If you have the gift of wanting to remain single, again God gave you that gift too. God creates something for everyone. Amen!

The best part is that when you get the love of a spouse, family, friends, colleagues etc, it still hasn't even scratched the surface of the surface of the surface of the surface of God's love. God's love is so vast and in this lifetime we will just never understand it fully or receive it fully. But in the many ways God decides to send his love to you, be open to receive it fully because he wants you to enjoy it fully, because you deserve it and you're worthy of having all of God's love in all of his many ways.

What a sweet and loving God! 

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